This is the first step that i create on my mind. In order to earn her trust, in my mind all I think of were how would a selfless person act or do. So I just did just that. The cue was obvious, the craving for her to smile, the effort do to make her smile by making her laugh, the reward was she's okay and happy.
It was one of the changes I did to break off my selfishness during the relationship. She had soo many that left her or cheated on her. But I'm not doing just that. I'm gonna improve and change all the things that I once destroyed her. She has been trying to guide me what ways I can do indirectly by showing videos, TikTok, or quotes from pictures to help me learn. I can make this guideline on my mindset soo that in the future I can be automatic as a person and anticipate everything that she wants and needs. Insya allah I'm able to do just that with extra effort all the way.
Before the year end, I'm gonna unlearn all the unneccessary things that was useless and move with more positive and keeping the relationship not by just saying. As I reflect back, I wasnt only selfish but I was also narcissist. In which is really got me fucked up big time. What i wanna from now on, stop everything, and do what a emphatic selfless person would do for a partner.
Till then, I will keep posting on what i did and improvements I made so far.
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